Choosing the Path of Acceptance

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.  Wayne Dyer

If you’ve been an employer or an employee at any time in your life, it’s a sure bet that you either gave or have had a performance evaluation.  In my case, the last 5 years of my career in corporate America, evaluations were dreaded and always consistently negative judgments and criticisms by people who rarely spoke with me or were critical of something that they never bothered to talk with me about until the evaluation.

Our state of mind when we are judged or criticized ranges from hurt to anger and stress, we feel pretty miserable.  It’s pretty easy to become immersed in a behavior if you’ve been subjected to it or been in an environment that supports it all of your life.

If you’re determined to achieve your dream, consider looking within yourself with the intention of creating a more positive way of believing, especially how you speak and think of others and yourself.  If you’re ready to make this leap into a new way of being, you’ll consider everything including the type of people that you surround yourself with.

Keep in mind that you not only have the power to deliberately choose your thoughts, you also consciously select the people that you’re friends with.  Removing negative comments, criticisms and judgments from your conversations about some else’s way of being can be done, it will take some effort on your part.  If you truly intend to become a better person and live a happier life, creating a new way of thinking is essential.

In order to connect with your soul, part of your development should include retraining yourself to withhold judgment and criticisms of others and yourself.  It may even mean eliminating some people from your circle of friends, especially those that thrive on negativism.  The inevitable result of the decisions you make is how your present life is and your future will be.

I am always looking for ways to improve myself and love to share what I’ve learned to provide tools to help with ways of being and living.  For me, being raised by a judgmental and critical parent and working in an environment that condoned both, undoing my tendency to be critical and judgmental felt like a major challenge because it’s been a way of being for a long time. But, from my experience, it has become easier to choose optimistic thoughts and ways to look at someone and situations especially when I consciously remember the human factor and that we are all from the same source.

I guarantee that it feels so good, whether it’s yourself or another person that you’re angry with, to keep in mind that we’re all doing the best we can based on what we were taught and believe that our way of being is the only way to be.  I am connected with some wonderful, inspirational online radio hosts on Facebook. One of the female hosts started a personal challenge to remain positive for three days, which included noticing when she would judge or criticize.  I loved the concept so much that I decided to put it into practice for myself.

I began with creating thoughts that were positive and concentrated on the times when I judged or criticized someone, a situation or a process and focused on stopping myself .  I put this new practice into place on a business trip with a couple of friends on the way home when a conversation began between the two ladies that focused on a women that we all knew.

Their conversation began by pointing out all of this woman’s shortcomings, and shifted to criticisms concerning everything about her, from her badly polished nails, her hairstyle to her choice of clothes and shoes.  As I listened, I focused on staying out of the conversation, then I recalled when I used to be that critical.

So how can you achieve this major plateau?  Check your thoughts as the come into your mind.  Then you can deliberately choose to tackle this way of thinking by using:

  • Self-talk and intentionally choose your thoughts as they come into your mind.
  • Remember the sunny side of life and the best in everyone.
  • Catch the judgment and change your thoughts to something fun, or different to remove your mind from the situation, even a song that you really connect with (my current song is Zip-a-Dee-DooDah).
  • Stop criticism by giving thought to your own self-improvement, choose to focus on the best in you and how your presence affects the lives of your family and friends.
  • Think well of yourself and announce it to the world.
  • Think of ways to make all of your true friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

The challenge of this new way of being is to learn to think from the other person’s point of view.  It is a process that takes effort every single day.  If you find that you cannot think of something positive about yourself or the person that you have negative thoughts about, then focus on ways that you can improve your belief system so you don’t have the time to criticize or judge yourself or another.

Intentionally change the way you view people and those people will appear differently to you.  If you desire a happy life, continue to strive for ways that you resonate with to make changes within yourself and the people that you make friends with.

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Do You Lose Faith in Yourself?

Taking Risks is a Show of Indomitable Faith

Our faith is the most important part of who we are, what we achieve, the decisions that we make and how far we go in this life.  There are times when we all experience lack of faith. Whether it’s on our journey to our dream, our abilities or the choices we’ve made.  Then we come across someone who has had every reason to lose their faith and hasn’t, we’ve been given a gift from the Universe to remember just how blessed we are.

She was in her late 40’s when she lost her job and her health insurance, something that has happened to millions across the country over the last couple of years.  Now that she no longer had health coverage and wanted to get an annual wellness check-up, she was going to have to find someplace to be seen that she could afford.  Through her search and talking with friends, she was told about a great local free clinic that cares for the uninsured, so she made an appointment.

Everything seemed to be okay, she felt fine, so when her lab results found that she had stage one cervical cancer, she was visibly shaken.  And while it’s difficult for anyone to see the blessings in this situation, her cancer was found in Stage 1 and she was given a referral to a physician that would not only provide the needed surgery but the following chemotherapy treatments at no cost to her.

It’s so easy to lose faith, when we get caught up in the day to day business of life, we all have a tendency to take the people that we love and our blessings for granted, we forget to be appreciative.  I think that even in more challenging times when we remain positive we will see that the Universe offers positive opportunities, we just have to have unshakable faith in ourselves. We must also always express gratitude, no matter how stressed or busy we are, it is a blessing to have our health and be alive.

She and I had briefly spoken of her illness but had been meaning to get together for some time, and finally decided to put it on our calendar and met at a local bakery late one Saturday afternoon.  We sat down and started chatting about life in general and talking about business.  We met because she’d mentioned that she wanted to discuss starting her own business and she wanted my advice.

As we began to talk, I asked how many children she had, and something about them.   She told me she had three grown children.  She quietly explained that one was diagnosed with a genetic mental disorder while in college several years ago and lived with her, the other two lived in the mid-west.  “I know that you’re aware that I’m a recent a cancer survivor” then explained that her husband died several years ago.  She talked about how strong her beliefs were and of her faith in God.  She wasn’t quite sure what her dream was, but was emphatic of the importance of getting back into the swing of life.  Her generous smile and easy laughter flowed with complete joy and love for life.

She told me that she spent many years in corporate America and said she was sure she never wanted to go back.  There was a strong conviction and sincerity in her voice as she explained the need for flexibility and that self-employment would be a perfect fit to her God-given talents, her love for writing, poetry and her consulting background to help people.

As we talked, I shared some of my experiences being self-employed, the ability to focus on my strengths and passion to make a difference.  Her eyes lit up as ideas to attain her goal came to her.  She knew that profound life changes were happening for her, and whatever she decided to do, it would feed her soul.

She’s sustained by the love of her children and their connection with her even though they aren’t all living near her.  We agreed on the importance of having the emotional support as she begins this new venture in her life.

Success comes much more quickly to us when along with taking care of your health, you have resolute faith that what you want is attainable and you’re supported with love and encouragement by those in your life.

Every day that we wake up is a gift.  Having faith in yourself, the choices that you make from your heart and the support that you need is the only way to achieve your dream. Remember to remain grateful, count your blessings , delight in the uniqueness of you and be happy, truly happy.  We might not have control of the everything that takes place in life, but we do have control of how we react to the things that happen, that is the foundation of unconquerable faith.

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Inspired Writing Doesn’t Have to be Difficult

I’ve been blessed with the ability to write just about anything and I love it.  I also know that there are a lot of you who feel as though writing meaningful and inspired communication should and could be avoided at any cost because the whole creative writing process makes you feel uncomfortable.  I understand completely, in my case, it’s working with numbers in any way that causes me to feel uncomfortable.

However, if you have a business, solid and inspired writing is or should be a vital part of the way you connect with your current and potential customers.  So, if you’re unsure about writing anything where the words are not only effective but also interesting, here’s the good news, I’ve included some simple tips and tricks below to help you feel like a writing star.

I know that you would love to be able to start writing effortlessly, rather than sitting there with that feeling of anxiety as you stare at that blank screen when you want to create a letter, article or any form of communication for your potential and current clients. Questions that might run through your mind could be, “What do I write about?”, “How do I start?”, “What will sound good?”, or “How long should what I write be?”  So, to help you  experience that, here is Tip 1: Decide on your topic.  As easy as that sounds, deciding on a subject can be overwhelming.

Make choosing your subject matter fun and easy by selecting an area that you’re very familiar with.   Start with something easy and short about yourself, such as an anecdotal story as you were getting into business or write an interesting piece about your area of expertise.  Whichever route you take, your intention is to write something inspired that your readers will connect with. Be honest, but discriminating.  Inject humor, take your time and be creative so the writing process will be fun so that nagging feeling of discomfort will slowly dissolve.

  • Tip 2 – consider your computer screen or tablet as your blank slate for you to create magic.
  • Tip 3 – create the title, play with it, change it until you are completely satisfied so it clearly reflects your subject, and it grabs attention.  Starting your article with a question can increase interest in your communication, no matter what it is.
  • Tip 4 – Jot down everything that comes to mind about that subject, whatever random thoughts come to mind using a pencil with a good eraser or begin freely typing.
  • Tip 5 – Keep in mind that you want to engage your reader.  Think about them all the while you’re in the creative process so you make the content for them.  It should be easy to read, informational, definitely interesting , including something to tug on your reader’s heart strings.

This is your creative flow, it should be fun and enjoyable.  Sometimes, I find it helpful to use the internet on the subject that I have chosen to write about when I get stuck. I search for pieces about whatever subject that I plan to write about and briefly scan a variety of articles, not to copy what has already been written, but to get some ideas or to help bring an interesting event into my mind so I am sure to create a communication that will not only be well written, but thought provoking.

Tip 6 -Use the thesaurus in MS applications, I find it helpful as I am writing to be sure I that I don’t repeat phrases or words in my article so that my story is positive and fun to read.

Tip 7 -The next step is to begin reading through them to cut and replace what you like and don’t like based on how you’re going to craft your message for your reader.  It is helpful to write something short and to have someone who knows you really well read your story to provide you with input and suggestions, especially if they are familiar with your style, they may be able to help you add something that will make your story even more interesting and fun.

Since this is your business and the communication is going to be imbued with your unique style for potential customers or supporters to act on, more impact is created when you use bullets or lists to feature anything that will so that your article will be read to the last paragraph.

These tips work very well whether you want to create a blog, a letter, email, newsletter, basically any form of communication that you generate.  The most important thing to remember, is you want your business content to reflect the uniqueness of you, the distinctiveness of your product or service and your passion.

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You’re The Best – Entrepreneurs – What Are You Eating?

I’ve been cooking from scratch since I was 10.  I’ve become very focused and passionate about my food consumption for the past several years because being the best I can be isn’t just about my talents and skills, it is about my whole life health.  So it is quite natural that my newest service is providing health and fitness advice to my clients.  Because I am involved with a healthcare clinic and I am passionate about what I put into my body and what I don’t, I’d like to share any information that I can to help you to create a healthier life for you and your family.

The number of bad food and beverage choices that people make which cause a multitude of medical problems, sluggishness, overweight issues, decreased productivity even the function of their brain power, is staggering.  You are only doing yourself a major disservice by not eating and drinking what is natural.  I am not referring to vegetarianism or organically grown, but natural, what grows from the earth.

I can attest from my own very busy schedule, that cooking from scratch isn’t as time consuming as it seems and drinking natural beverages is as easy and you get to be very creative.   Making something healthy, that tastes good and satisfies you can take less than 30 minutes, whether it’s just for you or your entire family.

I wanted to share the case study below which describes the effects of processed foods on our bodies, to give you some incentive and to help you to pursue your own healthier lifestyle.

Food Additives & Adulteration

“Today, over 6,000 synthetic chemicals are officially condoned for use in the processed-food industry. These include some that are known carcinogens. Processed foods contain high levels of the debilitating, denatured ingredients such as white sugar, refined starch, pasteurized cow’s milk, land mined salt and hydrogenated vegetable oils. The human immune system correctly recognizes chemical food additives as toxic foreign agents and attempts to rid the body of them; thus causing severe biochemical reactions and stress on the immune system.”

“After years of daily exposure to inorganic chemicals, the immune system breaks down and burns out, leaving the body vulnerable to microbes, toxins and cancerous cells. The food industry has duped the public and government health agencies into believing that their products are safe for human consumption; even in the face of abundant scientific evidence to the contrary.  In fact, such information is in the public domain and openly available to anyone who seeks it.[2]ref: Daniel Reid [ Processed Food], Helping People Survive Online, accessed December 2010

Being unaware of the damaging affects on your body when you eat fast or processed food on your health can impact you and your family’s health significantly.  Knowledge is power, applied wisdom is life changing.

Naturally Easy Choices

With all of the choices available to purchase produce whether it’s your local grocery store’s produce section, the frozen food aisle, an organic store, a family-owned produce store, a farmer’s market or a roadside produce stand, the cost in dollars and reduced medical problems when you include a bounty of natural foods in your diet, is far less than the cost of an illness.  Produce can be very budget friendly, is easy to fix and there are multiple benefits, most importantly, you will feel great after a meal of natural foods that you made yourself.

“Fruits and vegetables contain essential vitamins, minerals, and fiber that may help protect you from chronic diseases. Compared with people who consume a diet with only small amounts of fruits and vegetables, those who eat more generous amounts as part of a healthful diet are likely to have reduced risk of chronic diseases, including stroke and perhaps other cardiovascular diseases, and certain cancer.”

“Nutrients should come primarily from foods. Foods such as fruits and vegetables contain not only the vitamins and minerals that are often found in supplements, but also other naturally occurring substances that may help protect you from chronic diseases.” ref.:

To safely and effectively remove pesticides from any fresh produce you purchase, I use this natural wash created by Dr. Mehmet Oz:

The vinegar in this spray has natural anti-bacterial properties, while the lemon juice is a natural astringent. The solution works to both breakdown and clean off pesticides.


1 cup water

1 cup distilled white vinegar

1 tbsp baking soda

1/2 of a lemon


Combine all ingredients in a large container. Transfer to a spray bottle with a pump. Spray mixture on produce and let sit for 5 minutes. Scrub and rinse.

This is the first of many articles that I will write to share my wealth of knowledge and suggestions to help you create the healthiest life possible for you and your family.

For your naturally healthy lifestyle.

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You’re The Best – Are You An Expert?

My new marketing and web content has added statements throughout indicating that I am an expert at a few things that I have gained knowledge of over the past 23 years of my career.  I’ve had a tendency to be a bit modest about my skills, so its been a learning process for me.

What are you an expert at?  You, like I, have gained many skills over the lifetime of our career and become an expert at something or maybe a few areas.  That expertise is something that you should take advantage of.  I’ve learned as a new entrepreneur to continue to become more educated in that area of my business and to include that in my content in order to increase the chances of being found by potential clients when they are seeking those expert skills.

When you apply your expertise to services or product descriptions, it helps your current and potential customers know what to ask of you.  If it isn’t something that you’ve emphasized before just imagine the response from your current customers and how their word of mouth references to a potential customer can be a gold mine for you.

If you haven’t focused on your expertise, think about all of your skills and then write them down.  Once you do, then prioritize your skills by the level of expertise you have. Then narrow it down to one or two and add that expertise to all of your marketing materials, in your newsletters and your social media posts. Consider the benefits to you and to your business.

With so many businesses being launched to the internet every day, it would only be to your advantage to include your expertise as often as you can.  Just think of the value that you will add to your customer’s purchasing experience.  That can only serve to increase your confidence, your business’s presence and your future financial picture.  How are you clarifying your talents and expert skills?  Are you portraying yourself as an expert in your field?

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You’re The Best – Organizing For Peace of Mind

Are you disorganized and unable to figure out how to create order for your business and find things easily?  I’ve created a process that works for me and everyone that I organize, without fail.

  • Sort all of your documents in folders by the year they’re dated, noting on a post it note the year on each one
  • Now, sort in folders by month
  • Next, sort the documents by type, i.e. bills, invoices, letters, etc.
  • Create labels for each folder / document type,
  • Letters and general documents are best filed, first in alpha order, then by month/year
  • Create a sections of folders with hanging folders that retain clients, business connections, potential clients, vendors, etc. in separate categories, giving you instant access to whatever you’re looking for.

If your schedule is busy like mine is, then create one page of file labels a week.  Make that a business goal each week so that it is a part of your weekly activities.

  1. Use multiple pocketed folders for invoices, bills and statements
  2. File those by month and then by year
  3. Create a separate label for each pocket
  4. Store away outdated and least used files to keep your office as efficient as possible

Keep a multiple file organizer on your desk or a nearby shelf to keep everything that you need at your fingertips, this makes it easy for you to find what you need for the projects that you are working on at the moment.

For general business related documents, my motto is “when it doubt, throw it out”.  Most people have a tendency to hold on to documents “just in case”. Remember that the more you do that, the less organized and current you will be.  If you haven’t looked at something in the past year, then it is safe to say you can toss it or shred it.

Being organized isn’t just a matter of keeping your papers and files in place, it helps you to have a calm and professional presence when you’re working with a client.  The peace of mind achieved through organization equates to a more relaxed, creative, and functional you.

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You’re The Best – Customer Service Fatal Errors

Customer Service Fatal Errors

By: Laura Putman

This article is not referring to large business and big corporation’s poor customer service standards, that’s a given.  I am referring to the many entrepreneurs, whether self-employed or franchise owners, who neglect to apply their business experience and knowledge to the most important part of their business, their customer service.

Why the reference to fatal errors?  Fatal errors in this case, is referring to a business or franchise owner assuming that the someone communicating with them, no matter the form or reason, isn’t worth responding to.  I know, I have been on the receiving end of this all too often.

Ignoring a communication is damaging to the reliability of you and your product or service.  What gives us the impression that the person we’re ignoring won’t be a paying customer now or in the future?  Or worse yet, that the person asking or requesting for a response won’t pass on our name and our clear lack of interest to all of their friends and colleagues.  With the boom in social media & search engine business poll use, I wouldn’t want to chance it.

How Businesses Lose Customers

My immediate reaction when a bad customer service situation happens is to me is to: a. not do business with them, now or in the future, b. shout their name from the rooftops as a business to stay away from and the reasons why, meaning my personal, frustrated opinion.

Can you imagine how many potential customers that someone like that is going to lose?

From an article titled ““Common Mistakes Made by Small Business Owners“”, by Susan Brown, Suite101 “Business owners are out of touch with customers. Small businesses often fail because they do not respond to the changing needs and attitudes of their customers.”

Remember, first and foremost the people that are being ignored are intelligent and savvy.  I, myself, am very email knowledgeable and well aware when I am being snubbed.  I also know when an email has landed in my junk or spam file because I get a notice and I also make a point to check it frequently.  Using that as an excuse is lame.  I always find a few minutes to respond to an email even if it is just a comment, I walk my talk.  I will even place a call to be connect with the person, a voice makes quite an impression when you are trying to create a relationship.

If as a business owner you don’t respond, shame on you.  If you use the excuse that you were too busy or had no interest in responding because the person is just looking for information, or asking for something that you don’t have or want to give, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face.  This not only one potential paying customer, but many that you’ve just blown off.

Have you ever seen the movie, Miracle on 34th Street?  In it the store Santa refers Macy’s customers to a nearby store for an item they are looking for that is either higher priced or not available in Macy’s.  That, my friends is the ultimate in customer service and a great way to gain the confidence and loyalty of a potential or current customer.

How You Can Easily Create a Win-Win Situation

a)     No matter the context of their email, respond, respond, respond.  Be polite, professional and end with an open-ended statement such as, whatever I can do to be of service to you

b)     Don’t say, “I’m sorry I didn’t respond to your email, for some reason it went to my spam folder and I didn’t see it”, that is the new standard excuse for ignoring an email that you didn’t feel was worth your time and everyone knows it.

c)      Set the time aside each day to review each email folder (even your spam folder), it’s easy and worth the time it takes

d)     Set time aside to check your voice messages and note to return the call, you never know when you might be blowing off a new client.

e)     Create an electronic task message to check your email or voice mail at the end of the day

I cannot advise that enough.  I have been in the business world for over 23 years and this one of my areas of expertise.  My biggest complaint and frustration is the lack of response to a request or response, either by phone or email.  In my world, there are no excuses, there shouldn’t be in yours.

If you want to be wildly successful and be the first business that comes to mind when someone is seeking your product or service, make sure you create a first rate customer service attitude and address every form of communication as you would expect to be communicated with.

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